My Decade Transformation
I hesitated to share this, but after talking with a friend this morning, I realized I needed to. Too many young women are rushing through life and, in the process, robbing themselves of peace, confidence, and true happiness. This is exactly why marrying the right person matters so much.
The girl on the left is barely recognizable to me now. She wasn’t confident at all. She was anxious, desperate to get her life started, and convinced she was running out of time. All she wanted was to become a mom, and she thought the only way forward was marrying the man she’d known for seven years—the only boyfriend she’d ever had. Even her smile was nervous, hiding the uncertainty in her heart. Deep down, her gut was warning her something wasn’t right, but she couldn’t put her finger on it.
Fast forward to the girl on the right, and it’s a completely different story. Her posture alone tells you how confident she is—confident in herself, in her choices, and in the love she’s found. She knows she is marrying the man God created just for her, even if he’s a little stubborn sometimes (haha). She knew he was “the one” long before their first date. There’s no anxiety, no nervous hives—something I’ve always done whenever I’m stressed or upset. She feels safe, loved, and truly seen. She knows he is faithful, loyal, and will never make her feel inadequate. Love like that makes you shine from the inside out.
So here’s my advice: girls, stop being the girl on the left. Don’t rush to tick off life milestones just to “catch up.” Wait for the one God has made for you. I would give anything to go back and whisper some sense into my 20-year-old self. Spend those years alone, grow into your best self, enjoy life fully, and wait patiently. I am endlessly thankful for my second chance.
Don’t follow society’s timeline—follow yours. Your life, your pace, your love.
